People may not be trying to get ahead. Individuals deal with conflict differently. Some try to accommodate and appease the upset party to diffuse a situation. Others avoid the situation entirely, or get aggressive. I tend to fall in the group that suggests changes to prevent or remedy the situation, even when I shouldn't (i.e. the GF doesn't want my advice, she just wants me to listen and agree with her).
I'm with Teawrex on this one. Personally I tried to be proactive, with mixed results, and have nothing I wish to gain beyond this place being a healthier environment.
1. I tightened up my posting
2. Sent a one way PM out of courtesy
3. Tried to intervene in a rando pile-in
4. Polished off and published something I'd been working on
5. Wrote a sincere public thank you, knowing how it may be interpreted, but hoping
others would show their support. (I re-wrote the thing an hour later because I got carried away writing something fancy-pants)
6. I've been PMing a member struggling to fit in
I'll probably be a bit less active or take a break, at least until I have an article to post or something.
Don't get me wrong I'd rather this than HF, but the way it's happening is disappointing. But I've never had to run a forum before.
Yeah, it's been building. It either has to become an invite-only club, or start to change and adapt to having a larger population.
EDIT: And if there's demand for something more honest than HF, and less hostile than SBAF, eventually we may see someone create a new site to meet that demand.
No need to be an invite-only club. But there's a strong sense of community here, and it takes time for newcomers to "get it". Periodical opening would have been a solution IMO
Read these "rules" AND introduce
yourself before your first post
Being true to what the artists intended
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