Verum: Doing The Right Thing

Discussion in 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' started by Ryanr1987, Jul 17, 2020.

  1. insidious meme

    insidious meme Ambivalent Kumquat

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    Sounds like they care more about eyeballs than the other stuff. But their board, their rules.
     
  2. Tachikoma

    Tachikoma Almost "Made"

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    The theory is that tolerance is not to be abused to the point where it erodes the core principles that underpin a tolerant society, i.e., this case where Garu has abused our collective tolerance and is thus beyond tolerance. In my interpretation, at least, it does not mean labeling everyone who disagrees with me as Nazis...

    Mind you I'm not American and glhf in November.
     
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    The only ones? Not true. Here are some attacks carried out by individuals or groups not on the far right.

    The Weather Underground Bombings
    2017 Congressional Baseball Shooting
    Pulse Nightclub Shooting
    San Bernardino Shooting
    Boston Marathon Bombing
    The Unabomber
    The 1920 Wall Street Bombing

    I won't dispute that the majority of attacks are carried out by far-right terrorists but it is disingenuous to say that all attacks are from the far right.
     
  4. YMO

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    From ASR by you know who:

    Yawns, I dunno if want this thread to continue. I feel like we are beating on a dead horse at this point. We know Garuspik is a smuck, lets move on.
     
  5. Merrick

    Merrick A lidless ear

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    Another fair point. I got a little riled up seeing someone blame “the left” for threatening political violence (naming anyone they don’t like a Nazi), when the far right are the ones who are using actual violence for political ends.
     
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    As with everything these days, the slide into politics is complete. Locking until someone above my pay grade unlocks.
     
  7. purr1n

    purr1n Desire for betterer is endless.

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    Dude, nutjobs are nutjobs, there is no left or right, there's just wrong.


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    Anyway, update / clarification from @fp427 because he realized that he was rambling:

    Just want to clarify the plank comment was not directed at you, sbaf staff, nor was I excusing garu. Thread is locked now so I can't clarify in public there. FWIW, I was going to order a Verum at the end of this month but will not be doing so anymore after what I saw - if I do get one, it's going to be used so my money doesn't go to garu. I'm just 1 person, but IMO this is the loudest thing I can do within reason given what he has done.

    I completely get no one had much to go off of a year or so ago when garu or supposed intern pulled his whole "hope you die of cancer" thing. I initially wrote something more cohesive and clear (and longer) about how I felt it was silly for members as a whole (not directed at you) to be arguing about the subtitles and nuances of inappropriate behavior (the specks) when compared to garu's blatantly inappropriate behavior (hence the initial plank comment). This ended up sucking the joy out of drinks + cigar so I deleted most of my post half way through and posted what I did. Reading it again now, yeah, it definitely wasn't very clear who I was directing my posts at and sounded a little more like inane rambling, especially given that the phrase is typically used to correlate hypocrisy on the part of an accuser (you were not a hypocrite here), not to make comparisons as I wanted to.​
     
  8. purr1n

    purr1n Desire for betterer is endless.

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    FYI. Forwarding message. Maybe you guys can advise.

    Hello, I'm Garuspik and ask you to post that message cause I don't want to violate SBAF rules and post during ban. A week ago I was banned ;( And I understand why - because of my trolling at discord.
    I'm definitely not a racist\homophobic\antisemite etc you can think about my personality. I was just a silly troll. One guy at discord called me communist and flat-earther and I thought it'll be funny to add some more negative perks to those titles and joke about sensitive things for western culture and cosplay something like Sacha Cohen's Borat.
    It was idiotic mistake and now I realize this.
    The only thing I ask is to judge me upon my deeds, not words:

    During over 2 years I've NEVER said anything bad on SBAF neither in public nor in private messages.
    There was one idiotic message from my ex-worker whom I've immediately fired. And Admin saw that messages were made from 2 different IP addresses. How can I prove this? I'm at least not stupid enough to tell such things to people that give me money and at the same time have thousands posts at forum. During 2 years I had a perfect track of working with customers and never was rude. Why should I act in another way in one particular case?

    Second - at my own will I've gathered money to one of the important SBAF members when he was injured in a car accident to help him pay bills in hospital. After that I've NEVER mentioned this situation nowhere. I don't consider this to be some merit, it was just my feeling - support a guy I sympathize that made huge contribution to our hobby. Haven't seen real support for that community member from other guys who now hate me. Call this another cultural difference - if I do care I think about a way to help, but not about encouraging forum post.

    In conclusion I'd like to say that community reaction explained me how I was wrong and those topics can't be a target for my silly sense of humour.
    I hope with time you guys can forgive me.
    Take care and I wish to all of you and your close people health. That's the most important nowadays.

    Igor, Ukraine.
     
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    https://www.theguardian.com/media-n.../deliver-public-apology-regret-react-reassure

    My hands are tied and any more advice I could offer than this would be taken as me coaching you to get back into publics' good graces. The article outlines three steps. HINT: already massive failure on the first step. I would love to help, but too many conflicts of interest. I suggest paying someone who is more "woke" because you are doing more damage to yourself in the Western eye with your evasiveness. I really want to help, I want to see the good in people, but I cannot in this situation.
     
  10. spwath

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    It's a near copy paste of what he said on ASR. Including the part about helping out a sbaf member and never mentioning it.
    Except he did say the same thing on ASR like a week ago
     
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    If he's allowed back, that is an admin/moderator decision, and therefore not up to me. But as far as Verum goes, he'll never get another dollar out of me. He can say it was all a joke and "add some negative perks" but someone who doesn't really feel that way wouldn't be able to think up the shit he said to begin with. I just feel that he was given another shot when either himself or his supposed employee wished cancer on someone, and that chance was squandered in spectacular fashion.
     
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    I cut out a wall of text. Too angry.

    Given everything that's happened and the fact that I believe you don't want to turn SBAF into a safe space for people who tolerate, encourage, or engage in highly improper speech, I say no.

    If he wants to help people with orders or repairs or whatever else, he has his own site and a whole other overly-vaunted forum besides.
     
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    People have been permanently banned from SBAF for far less than this. I don't buy the whole "I was just joking" schtick either. "I'm not a racist/homophobe/antisemite, I just said racist/homophobic/antisemitic things for laughs" is not a particularly good argument, especially since so much of the alt-right is currently funneled through 8chan style memes and jokes. I also greatly dislike the false dichotomy of judging him by his deeds and not words--using those slurs was a deed unto itself and should not be swept away as mere words without any kind of weight or impact. Frankly I see no real apology in that post, just a lot of excuses. If I were an admin I would not let him back based on that message. And even if he were let back, I will not be giving him any business.
     
  14. Azimuth

    Azimuth FKA rtaylor76, Friend

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    It seems a pattern of behavior rather than a sick sense of humor. We all agrees, joking or not, that kind of trolling about someone is unacceptable.

    If he was imitating Borat was way over everyone's heads. It was certainly a situation that got out of control, but sometimes that is when we can see someone's true colors.

    I remember from the first postings of the Verum someone commented on the look of the carbon fiber and Gar snapped back rather rudely more than once, then he blamed it on his bad English.

    I think people have heard what he has to say and his website is still up.
     
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    Don't know if the logistics is doable, but how about a buffer layer - a person that works for him, or even a volunteer, that is the "face" of his project/company and is allowed to represent it here at SBAF? This does not mean that the community here will have to accept Igor's deeds, philosophy, "true colors". There will no doubt be many who decide that their own values will not allow them to do business or interact with Igor's company even with this buffer layer. However, it might be enough to separate the project from the sins of the man, and allow some good going forward.

    Just a thought...
     
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    I still don't trust that it was his admin that said that vile crap to @Gaspasser. That's crossing the line, but what do I know....
     
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    Why would this be necessary? Doesn't he have his own website and other places he can be contacted?
     
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    About 20 years ago someone told me about a large international company with big placard on the entrance saying something like "If you can avoid making a joke - please avoid it."
     
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    There is nothing 'necessary' about an audio forum, who participates, and the like. The question in front of us, unless I am mistaken, is whether to have some representation of Igor's project (is it a company per se? I don't know) on some level (and under what conditions) here at SBAF.

    The man is not going to change - It's highly improbable that a moral "conversion experience" is in his future, or that he and most the rest of his Eastern European culture are going to suddenly agree with western progressive values.

    So what's left? Is there room for some kind of practical relationship? I am just asking the question. Would some recent woke Yale grad with a title such as "customer relations" who represents the project while Igor is silent in the background be workable? Just a question...
     
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    I have two general feelings on this matter.

    1. I don't necessarily agree that one's verbal conduct on one forum/platform should be basis for banning on another if that person follows proper conduct on that forum/platform. Dude is an idiot for lacking professionalism and using his business avatar to troll with but he should be judged based on his conduct on SBAF.

    2. But it should be used as evidence of previous questionable conduct to SBAF members. I don't believe that intern crap so screw him. SBAF should not be supporting his business either by ads or membership.
     

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