Something in the “Politically Incorrect” thread, I guess? I unwatched it a while ago and try to avoid clicking on it whenever it shows up among the New Posts. I want to keep up the illusion that most people here are nice guys, and talking about politics isn’t a good way to do so.
Not gonna say I'm unaware you haven't been butting heads with Marv and some others over the years, but with retrospect it's always looked to me like you guys have just been talking through each other rather than with each other. It's very rarely amusing, mostly frustrating. Communication, especially over text, is hella hard.
Harsh Words From a Friend: You need to stop being butt hurt when things don't go your way related to a disagreement. Some of your comments in that thread did came across as being too passive aggressive bitchy fest. It's a shame, since you made some valid points.
As we say in the business world: It's not what you said, but how you say it.
@YMO If I feel I am not being respected, then I am not. You may sit there and call it "butthurt", but sometimes I wonder if people here also treat their real friends or their co-workers the same way. I'm sure HR might have something to say. Harsh words from a friend: don't tell me how to act or react.
And don't come on here to complain about your problems publicly and tell others don't respond back to you publicly. Ultra bitchy. Best way to resolve issues is privately without throwing your grievances in public. That's the old school/adult way of doing things at times.
Others can contest, but people who had problems with me in the past privately PM and we resolved our issues like gentlemen.
your Ego is preventing you from communicating like an adult and having a good time! when that happens, it defeats the purpose of any forum. time for reflection...
I actually work with one of the senior members on this site and we transparently disagree then figure out the path forward a lot. No one is offended because radical transparency is better than the alternative.
I appreciate it, but the level of mutual respect and comradery an be low around here sometimes. And it does not help for others to keep telling me I’m the problem or gaslighting me. I don’t think I’ve ever told one of closest friends that they have a big ego or used the word “butthurt.” I don’t need to be told how to feel or what to do. I am adult. I will take care of myself. I’m fine.
I will also say, those that posted advice, not one of you reached out to actually talk to me, just shouted at me on how to feel and act. You’re not helping and you are not a friend.
But you aren't listening to my advice and reach out to people privately. People aren't going to be holding your handle and kiss it to make it feel better. It starts with you, and that's one of the big points here.
Ask what --YOU-- can do (or not do) to have SBAF more comfortable for you, not what others can do. Every single action you take will result in another action. Take actions that will have resultant positive or desirable actions. No one would bother and you would just be banned if people didn't like you.
@Azimuth I've used VERY harsh words with some of my closest friends, and have had very painful things said to me by the same. The reason I'm still close friends with them is because this was always calling out bad habits or self-injurious actions. Honey vs vinegar sure, but this not being a way you and your closest confidantes communicate doesn't mean it's not how others work.
SBAF has always been about tough love. If you guys don't remember the radical honesty days... The problem is mods have lives and less time now. Anyway, vintage receiver comparo coming up.
Also, we are dudes. We f**k with each other. My son's GF and I give each other so much shit and argue all the time about stupid stuff, chocolate chip cookies, air fryers, chicken nuggets, BBQ sauce, cars.
You made this thread public so I gave you public advice. I do it in meetings all the time when people decide to make big comments like this. We have insane retention because we treat people well at work.
I don't know what you're missing here: you may physically be an adult but you're not acting like one.
Either way, you don't like the outcomes but you aren't changing anything on your end, you're just playing victim here. The only thing you can control is your own actions so you have three equally valid choices here:
1. continue as is and accept that things won't change
2. make a change on your end and see what the result is
3. choose to move on
As someone who doesn't agree with some of your audio opinions, I still enjoy and respect your content and opinions and the perspective they provide. This also applies to me for several people here.
If your being upset is about general disagreement and us not patting each other on the back more often, more overtly... I'm going to echo the underlying general sentiment here. Disagreement =/= disrespect.
As I said some time back, if one jumps in the shit pool, only one thing happens. I appreciate those who feel they have no choice. There's a kind of honour there. And maybe I just got too old.
Dawg I love you and this is a terrible take.
We have all learned so much from here and it has advanced us in our journey in one way or another. Be well and continue to contribute. Love is the answer.
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